The BUT that’s Blocking You

Wellbeing | 21 December 2023

Writen By Madeline McQueen

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Before you think that I am talking about something weirdly sexual, let me stop you and clarify right now.

The BUT I am talking about is that one that you use to excuse other people’s behaviour or the one that stops you asking for what you want. It’s the, BUT that holds you back from living your dreams or following a different path to the one others expect of you and so much more.

Your BUT is a party pooper. 

It creates a negative narrative that sees you focused on why something can’t happen rather than why it can.

It keeps you in that job that doesn’t appreciate you for years and years, calling the company family and accepting less pay.  

It keeps you saying, but just one more year, and then I will do the career I really want to do. 

These BUT’s are dangerous. 

Why? 

Because they are responsible for you living a half-life.

Don’t get me wrong; I have my own BUT’s that I must challenge. 

A few years ago, I wrote a book called “Close That Sale – Seven Steps to Close the Sale and Make More Money.” I wrote it because I was fed up with coming across business people who would not engage in the sales process and were losing out and leaving money on the table because they wouldn’t ask for the sale out of fear.

I created a solution, a seven-step process that made it easy. I had given this process to some women in my network, and they had great results. Suddenly they weren’t so afraid to ask, and the close was simpler, easier and more often than not successful. 

You know what happened? I put the book out there and then went on a BUT fest.

BUT no one’s going to buy it 

BUT maybe it’s not written very well 

BUT what if people criticise it 

BUT what if someone challenges the theory 

BUT what if I don’t know enough 

BUT if I promote it, I’m exposing myself 

BUT, BUT, BUT, BUT 

You know I even got the book on its second edition edited by a copywriter and paid for it to be done. 

My BUT’s impacted my sales.

I didn’t keep the book up on Amazon for too long; I took it down.  

Yet the people who bought it really benefited. 

To the point that I was on a mastermind group weekend, and one of the attendees told me that they had purchased it, and it has been super helpful. 

Check me out! Blocking my own Blessings. 

That’s what BUT’s do and do well.

They block what is for you. 

They block opportunity 

They block new experiences.

They block Abundance 

They block you moving forward. 

They block you realising your real dreams. 

They block you from listening to your own voice and prioritise others. 

 
If you have been subscribed to my newsletter, following any of my work, you will know that I truly believe that thoughts become things. 

I have seen it happen in my life waaaayyyy too many times to try and say that this is not true. 

Those BUT’s soon become your reality when you keep leaning into them. 

They hold you back from those blessings that you say you want but refuse to believe are possible for you.  

What are the BUT’s that are running your life?

Do you even know what they are anymore? 

 Have you held back from moving home? Taking a job in another city, asking for a pay rise, pushing back on the extra work that they keep giving you? What is it for you? 

 As I hear my coaching clients and The Compass Club members talk about their BUT’s (without even realising it), I’ve been reviewing the BUT’s in my own life. I have been questioning what BUT’s have been blocking my blessings and what I need to do to get rid of them.

There is an old adage that comes to mind. 

Practice makes perfect 

And the newer version. 

Practice makes progress

If you want to start challenging your BUT’s you have in your life, then you need to adopt the 3 R’s 

Recognise where you are saying them 

Reframe what you are saying 

Respond differently 

 And then you need to practice that over and over again because it takes at least a month of constant practice to create a new neural pathway in your brain – in other words, a new thought!

Time to get rid of those BUTs after all, they are

Blessings Under Threat!


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